LOVE LANGUAGES... what's yours? ;-)

I have read a good book discussing about 5 types of love languages. It says that each person speaks different language about love. What does it mean? It simply says that we have our own way of expressing love and have our own preference of how we want to be loved. The five languages are as follows:

1. Quality time
2. Words of affirmation
3. Gift giving
4. Physical Touch
5 Acts of Service

These languages of love vary from person to person. The book written by Gary Chapman says that no matter how strong you express love to one person, if it's not his/her love language(s), He/She will not truly feel loved... why? because her "love tank" cannot be filled with your way of love since he/she has her own way of love expression. For e.g. You are the type of guy who loves cooking for your loved-one, or maybe assisting her in household chores... no matter how you do it, if the woman your in loved with has a different love language (let's say words of affirmation), she will not truly feel loved or valued, because you fail to say: "oh you look so beautiful today" or "i like the dress you are wearing right now"... Get it?? So i'm asking you, what do you think is your love language? and Are you aware of your loved-ones love language? (Family, friends, girlfriend, boyfriend, etc)? Are you expressing them? We all know that God is love and love is God. And if you want to agree with me, i believe that there's nothing great in this world than to express love and feel loved the way we want it. Let's see how you express love. ;-)

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Permalink Reply by psalmist on January 5, 2010 at 2:11am: Gift giving for me.. like what i did this Christmas. I gave presents to each of my friends and team mates from work. Though im not expecting anything in return, i also feel special whenever i receive gift from someone regardless of the worth of the gift. God Bless us!; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Nick Sss on January 8, 2010 at 6:24am: At first I was thinking about quality time. Because I enjoyed spending time with people without requiring to talk. Now, not sure about it. I love when people compliment me. But if someone touches me, I'll probably feel more cared about. But the most important thing is to be right with God. He'll teach you how to act right. I also have the book btw. Didn't fully read it though.; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by eivanne venz on January 21, 2010 at 7:50pm: i bet that book is awesome c: i'm going to look for it. thanks!; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Kevin Dwayne Bowie on January 22, 2010 at 1:31am: That Was Nicely Said And Somthing To Think About; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Juz Tine Candelario on February 2, 2010 at 7:47am: my love language is quality time ^_^
being together with someone i love means a lot to me!; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Jasmine on February 8, 2010 at 10:08pm: I read the Five Love Languages Singles Edition. My primary love language is quality time. That book was very insightful and helpful to me in my relationship with others. That book is awesome. I've been recommending it all of my friends.; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Christina Bishop on March 4, 2010 at 9:33pm: I read this book about two years ago and could not put it down! When I was first reading it I thought my love language was physical touch, because I enjoy holding hands, hugs, cuddling...etc. But then when I thought about it in all of those situations I was one on one with a person and usualy having a meaningful conversation. Looking at the relationship I have with friends, I feel the most valued when we spend time together. I can't tell you how frustrated I get when someone takes a phone call or works on the computer when we are hanging out or in the middle of a conversation. So my love langugte is Quality Time.

The amazing thing is that we all have a little of each love language in us. So if you are related/dating/married to someone of a different love language, it does not mean you are incapable of communicating love to them. You just have to practice, just like you would practice a second language. And what would be a bigger display of love than being willing to learn the love language of your loved one?; ▶ Reply to This